Attachment Style - Survey

Alright! So in my small group we did some stuff on attachment theory and how that affects our relationship with God. If you're wondering what style you might have tendencies towards, go down the list of questions and answer (Often/Rarely). Get out notepad.exe and list your yes and no's! The answer key is at the bottom of the page. (Taken from "Why you do the things you do, the secret to healthy relationships, Clinton & Sibcy")

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1. I don’t like sharing my feelings with others. 
2. I don’t like it when my partner wants to talk about his/her feelings. 
3. I have a hard time understanding how other people feel. 
4. When I get stressed, I try to deal with the situation all by myself. 
5. My partner often complains that I don’t like to talk about how I feel. 
6. I don’t really need close relationships. 
7. I highly value my independence and self-sufficiency. 
8. I don’t worry about being alone or abandoned. 
9. I don’t worry about being accepted by others. 
10. I tend to value personal achievements and success over close, intimate relationships. 
11. I really like sharing my feelings with my partner, but he/she does not seem as open as I am. 
12. My feelings can get out of control very quickly. 
13. I worry about being alone. 
14. I worry about being abandoned in close relationships. 
15. My partner complains that I am too clingy and emotional. 
16. I strongly desire to be very intimate with people. 
17. In my closest relationships, the other person doesn’t seem as desirous of intimacy and closeness as I am. 
18. I worry a great deal about being rejected by others. 
19. I tend to value close, intimate relationships over personal achievement and success. 
20. When I get stressed, I desperately seek others for support, but no one seems as available as I would like them to be. 
21. My feelings are very confusing to me, so I try not to feel them. 
22. My feelings are very intense and overwhelming. 
23. I feel torn between wanting to be close to others and wanting to pull away. 
24. My partner complains that sometimes I’m really needy and clingy and other times I’m distant and aloof. 
25. I have a difficult time letting others get close to me, but once I let them in, I worry about being abandoned or rejected. 
26. I feel very vulnerable in close relationships. 
27. Sometimes I feel very disconnected from myself and my feelings. 
28. I can’t decide whether or not I want to be in close relationships. 
29. Other people can really hurt you if you let them get too close. 
30. Close relationships are difficult to come by because people tend to be unpredictable in their actions and behaviors. 
31. I find it easy to share my feelings with people I’m close to. 
32. I like it when my partner wants to share his/her feelings with me. 
33. I am comfortable getting close to others, but I also feel comfortable being alone. 
34. I expect my partner to respect who I am. 
35. I expect my partner to respond to my needs in a sensitive and appropriate way. 
36. Building intimacy in relationships comes relatively easy to me. 
37. I let myself feel my emotions, but I’m rarely, if ever, overwhelmed by them. 
38. I am able to understand and respond sensitively to my partner’s feelings. 
39. I do a decent job balancing my need for intimacy with my need for achievement and success. 
40. When I get stressed, I feel comfortable seeking comfort from my partner and/or close friends. 

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If many of your "often" or "yes" came in the following sections of the questions, then you might have a tendency towards:

Q1-10 The Avoidant Attachment Style

Q11-20 The Ambivalent Attachment Style

Q21-30 The Disorganised Attachment Style

Q31-40 The Secure Attachment Style